The Right Bad Stuff

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Have you ever had those moments when something which was totally wrong felt so right? At the back of your mind, you know that you are not supposed to do or engage in things that would harm you and the people around you, and yet you insist on doing it your way. You ignore those little voices whispering into your ears, pleading you to STOP. But, in many cases, you don’t listen. You know and you’re aware of what those little voices are telling you, but you choose to do your own thing, your own way, and with your own assumptions and beliefs.

Have you fallen into a trap where it’s hard to get out, not because you can’t but because there’s something you hold on to and can’t let go? Sometimes, we get so attached with something or someone and that letting go seems so hard. You know you want to set yourself FREE from all the bewildering situations. But, how could that be possible when you just keep on holding on with this thing that gives you happiness even if it means it’s just momentarily and temporarily? It’s a weird feeling of mixed emotions–a psychedelic feeling that you can’t exactly explain what it is. You hate yourself from doing it, from wanting it, from ignoring the consequences. Yet, you don’t seem to mind when you are at a state of getting a dose of your addiction to something or someone.

How come there are moments when some of the BAD STUFF you do feels so RIGHT? Well, you know that it’s wrong, but you just intentionally shut your eyes, cover your ears, and do what you feel like doing however strong your conscience tells you not to let yourself fall into that trap. It leads you to nowhere except that you are caught in a spiral where you just keep on coming back and doing it all over again.

“My soul knows my meat is doing bad things, and is embarrassed. But my meat just keeps right on doing bad, dumb things.” ― Kurt Vonnegut

When A Man Blames A Woman, he blames her “BIG TIME”

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If a man happens to cheat on a woman, he gets the excuse of “being a man” and somehow manages to escape public scrutiny. Manhood and nature are his alibi–an excuse which a man often gets out clean.

“I was tempted…”I became weak”…”I AM SORRY!” A simple “I AM SORRY” makes a woman’s heart soft. A woman makes all the willingness to excuse his man’s unflattering ways of looking into another woman’s face with his “oh-so-sorry” dramatic lines. It’s ironic that a woman falls weak to his man’s plea after her man falls weak due to his so-called “nature.”

A woman manages to keep her pain long enough just to make amends with the man she feels deeply important to her. Although hurt, she still puts on her smile. Although broken, she keeps mending her wounded spirit. And although shuttered, she lets all bad things pass her way.

But, when a woman makes one false move, a man gives her the worst remarks she could get. Man throws all the blame to his woman making her feel she’s the worst worthless being on earth. Each word cuts her deeply until she’s almost like a shredded piece of trash as good as nothing. He curses his woman like a sinner whose sins are unforgivable and likens her to a stinking whore whose life is totally wrecked and wasted.

When a man say and act this way to his woman, does he ever try looking at himself too and wonder if he’s too clean to pinpoint dirt at his woman? A man hardly accepts a broken ego–the more if it’s his own woman who causes it. When a man blames her woman, he blames her BIG TIME!

Wish you were here by Avril

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I happened to hear this song, “Wish you were here” by Avril Lavigne, just now. The melody and lyrics of the song made me played this video a couple of times. I tried to listen to its lyrics, and the words were just plain and simple, casual but meaningful.

The lyrics speak about a girl who is in love, and how it weakens  her without her man by her side. I think there are lots of girls who can relate to this, and who simply like to say, “damn! damn! damn! what I’d do to have you here, I wish you were here.”

Avril seemed to have transformed into a more mature singer/performer in this video. The video itself focused on  facial expressions, and I think Avril pulled it off. It’s good that the video didn’t showcase the usual Avril Lavigne with a punky, rock star looks. However, in this video, the director could have thought of something different aside from the bathtub scene. I have already seen a lot of this scenario from other artists’ videos.

Here is the lyrics of the song entitled, “Wish you were here” by Avril Lavigne.

“Wish You Were Here”

I can be tough
I can be strong
But with you, it’s not like that at all

There’s a girl
who gives a shit
behind this wall
You’ve just walked through it

And I remember all those crazy things you said
You left them running through my head
You’re always there, you’re everywhere
But right now I wish you were here.
All those crazy things we did
Didn’t think about it, just went with it
You’re always there, you’re everywhere
But right now I wish you were here

Damn, Damn, Damn,
What I’d do to have you
here, here, here
I wish you were here.
Damn, Damn, Damn
What I’d do to have you
near, near, near
I wish you were here.

I love the way you are
It’s who I am, don’t have to try hard
We always say, say like it is
And the truth is that I really miss

All those crazy things you said
You left them running through my head
You’re always there, you’re everywhere
But right now I wish you were here.
All those crazy things we did
Didn’t think about it, just went with it
You’re always there, you’re everywhere
But right now I wish you were here

[Chorus:]
Damn, Damn, Damn,
What I’d do to have you
here, here, here
I wish you were here.
Damn, Damn, Damn
What I’d do to have you
near, near, near
I wish you were here.

[Bridge:]
No, I don’t wanna let go
I just wanna let you know
That I never wanna let go

(let go let go let go let go)

No, I don’t wanna let go
I just wanna let you know
That I never wanna let go

(let go let go let go let go let go let go let go)

Damn, Damn, Damn,
What I’d do to have you
here, here, here
I wish you were here (I wish you were)
Damn, Damn, Damn
What I’d do to have you
near, near, near
I wish you were here.

Damn, Damn, Damn,
What I’d do to have you
here, here, here
I wish you were here.
Damn, Damn, Damn
What I’d do to have you
near, near, near
I wish you were here. 

The way to a man’s heart…

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I am quite sure you have all heard about this famous quote, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”  Well, for me it could be maybe, possibly or perhaps absolutely? It’s not that I want to defend myself of not being a good cook. I admit that I am not a kitchen-person, though there are times I like experimenting in the kitchen–good thing the dishes don’t end up tasting like an experiment gone wrong.

Here’s a little humor about this quote:

“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”

–only when he’s hungry. Try saying this when he’s on a full stomach. I bet you’ll go crazy calling him for dinner when he’s busy in front of his PC monitor.

–if you can’t cook ladies, let’s try the other way. Men are not hungry for food alone but they’re hungry for you. He’ll love you more for this.

So, just remember ladies, there are may ways through a man’s heart. We just need to figure out which way.